10 Secrets

 

So I have been reading this fiction book series writen by Karen Kingsbury and in the last book I found something extremely inspiring that I wanted to share. In the story the following list was in a letter that a mother (who had recently passed away) had left for each of her six children. It was her secrets to a happy, thriving and lasting marriage. I understand this book was all in a pretend world but I couldn't help but share. Jordan and I had fun discussing them, what areas we were strong in and what areas we could improve on. If you're not married.... sorry this one may not be applicable.

 

10 Secrets to a Happy Marriage

 

1. God has you here to serve one another. Love acted out is serving.

 

2. Women need respect and nurturing. Love your wife so she knows you'd lay your life down for her. Continue to date her and admire her. Share a hobby- find something can do to have fun together.

 

3. Laugh often.

 

4. Be patient. Love crumbles quickly under the weight of unmet expectations.

 

5. Spend more time trying to fix yourself than your spouse.

 

6. Keep short accounts. The Bible says, "Do not let the sun go down while you are angry." Make it a habit to forgive.

 

7. Determine up front that divorce is not an option.

 

8. Learn about love languages. Not all people show love or receive it the same way. You want a back rub and your spouse want a clean kitchen. The love languages are fairly simple: acts of service, time, physical touch, gifts, and words of affirmation. Learn them. Love is better received when its's in the language that person speaks.

 

9. Words of affirmation are a love language for all men.

 

10. Men are born to be leaders. He cannot lead unless she gives him the confidence to do so. If you love your husband, build him up. Confident men do not seek love outside the home.

 

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